Giving Love Does Not Tire, Being Disappointed If

Disappointment is a feeling which, if prolonged over time, not only tires but also ends up turning us off from within and by destroying our dreams.

No one can exhaust himself in offering sincere tenderness to anyone who recognizes every effort and detail. Giving love does not tire. What darkens morale are the disappointments and every void felt in these relationships.

Saying that we should “give love without counting” is fine, but some details should be clarified.

It is good to give as much love as possible to those around us, but you should know that there are limits, depending on the reactions of others.

There are some people who think it is okay to receive attention, flattery, favors, and tenderness.

But these people often forget that a relationship is a continuous exchange where one gives oneself and where one offers equitably.

Unconditional love is, without a doubt, something very respectable.

This is what we feel, for example, for our child. It is an insurmountable pillar that we maintain and enhance.

Now “unconditionality” itself is dangerous ground for many people.

It cannot always justify continuing to give affection and respect when we no longer receive it ourselves.

For example, we are often looked down upon or betrayed. This is a common aspect in our emotional relationships that we want to address in this article.

Disappointment tires and gradually extinguishes love

Disappointment tires us out and opens our eyes. However, until that moment arrives, we go through a series of complex and emotionally harsh phases that make us question a lot of things.

It must be said that a disappointment is not necessarily the first step towards a breakup.

There are times when it allows us to see things with greater realism to set in motion more mature changes.

Let’s see all of this in detail.

When love is blind and disappointment opens our eyes

When we are very young, we live in emotional relationships where we idealize the other to such an extent that we see no fault in him and we put him on a disproportionate pedestal.

• Daily life gradually shows us that perfection does not exist, and that it is neither good nor bad. Seeing the reality of things is a suitable – and necessary – way to better face a relationship.
• Our spouse, just like us, is not perfect, let alone infallible. We make mistakes, we all have quirks, and many faults.
• These first disappointments should open our eyes to realize that for the relationship to prosper, everyone must invest equally.
  

Faults are corrected, mistakes are used to learn and faults harmonize with those of the other.

The disappointment that tires and hurts

There are facts, details, words and deeds that open our eyes and show us, with a little astonishment and disappointment, that a person was not as we thought.

• It is also likely that she was never as we thought because love tends to idealize the character of people.
• Love should never be offered with closed eyes. The most complicated of all of this is that when we talk about emotions, we enter a field where everything is very complicated to control.
• We can accept a disappointment, we can forgive a mistake, and even five. But, once it is repeated and the pain caused is not taken into account, we are obliged to make a decision.

Disappointment continues to tire out, but also hurts and destroys our self-esteem. This is something we should all know.

I’m tired of so many disappointments

We must not go to these extremes. When the heart is too tired in the face of so many disappointments it has endured, it either turns off or it accepts the situation and surrenders.

• We should never fall into those situations in which we tolerate disappointments to the point of thinking that “this is normal”.
• It does not matter whether these relationships are between spouses, friends or children. If there is no respect and there is a willingness to do harm for no reason, now is the time to react firmly.

It is better to know how to do it from the first disappointment. Once we open our eyes to a reality, we have to face it and explain that we have been hurt and that is not how we build a relationship.

If something bothers you, give it a name and express it. If something disappoints you, demonstrate it and implement strategies so that it doesn’t happen again.

Try to come up with a sharper answer if the disappointments continue. Otherwise, you will continue to be hurt and broken.

Don’t allow that.