Happy People Don’t Talk Badly About Others

Instead of obsessing over criticism or criticizing others, spend your time improving yourself and those around you .

Explanations

Happy people know that there are few things in life as exhausting as listening to someone criticize all the time.

In addition to locking ourselves in a pit full of negative behaviors, we end up feeling terrible.

In the end, gossiping words and attitudes wear us out so much that our minds are devastated.

When we come across these people, we have two options: either walk away or try to help them.

As the famous phrase goes, there is no such strong indication of emotional and vital poverty as when a person devotes his time and effort to criticizing others.

If you are close to a person who criticizes all the time, you should know that they can significantly intoxicate our emotions, because this can throw us off balance very easily.

In this sense, living in peace is priceless, because we must always protect our physical and psychological space.

We have to create a non-constructive anti-criticism shell, because we say that words hurt only when they are spoken by someone who matters to us.

What others think of you is their reality, not yours

Some people give their opinion on a situation, even if no one has asked them for their opinion.

The purpose of these masked criticisms is to hurt, despise, and take advantage of the worry of others.

People who do this have such low self-esteem that they cannot accept themselves or others.

No one is able to decode the feelings of others. We find it difficult to understand ourselves. We never really know what other people are going through, feeling, learning or suffering from.

So, we shouldn’t give importance to what others say about us. Indeed, their words obey an illusory reality, driven by the desire to know everything.

Happy people: stand strong in the face of criticism

With every stone thrown at me
I build my fortress
Elvira Sastre

If you listen to criticism too often, you are putting your well-being and your emotional balance at risk.

That’s why it’s best to spend time improving yourself and those around you. This is how happy people do. 

You don’t need to criticize or be criticized, but you should be concerned with correcting your mistakes, until you reach a greater level of emotional well-being.

If we surpass ourselves in terms of personal development, we will gain in security, respect, humility, generosity and honesty.

We cannot live pretending to be perfect, but it is important to maintain an attitude of constant progress that gives us the opportunity to live our life free from submissiveness, blackmail, or emotional dependence.

Sanitize Your Damaged Part – What Happy People Do

To heal the emotional wounds that criticism causes in us, we first need to understand that we are unique and exceptional people.

From there, we need to put the fear aside and think about ourselves.

Non-constructive criticism takes with it a great emotional poverty in the closed world of the one who utters it.

So, if the person does not want to think about themselves, it is better to be selfish and have everyone mind their own business.

Tips for being one of the happy people

How do you deal with the emotional damage generated by criticism? We will think about it for a moment …

• There is a direct consequence of giving importance to what others think and say about us. We end up transforming into people that we are not.
  Wanting to please others to the point of losing our identity is absolutely not healthy.
• Are you a good mother? A successful person? Are you smart? Are you doing your job well? Do you please others?
  Do you realize how much energy you waste worrying about what other people think of you?
• Even though we tend to think of ourselves as the center of other people’s gaze, in reality what we do and stop doing doesn’t really matter much to them.
  That is, others think much less of us than we think.
• It doesn’t matter if you do something one way rather than another. Indeed, there will always be someone who will misinterpret it. Happy people know that.
  Try to live and act as you see fit. Be natural and realize that the only way to be in harmony with yourself is to do what you feel every moment. It’s the secret of happy people!

Illustrations by bruniewska and Chichi Huang