Avoid People Who Exhaust You, Surround Yourself With Who Makes Your Heart Happy
Since we have to hang out with many people who deplete our energy, it is good to learn to set limits so that we can ‘they don’t affect us too much.
As curious as it may sound, the famous “happiness saboteurs” exist in all personal environments. They are found in family, in friends and in the professional context.
Sometimes they display their toxic behaviors without realizing it. They need us, they are looking for support, advice, relief… Aspects that we could understand if it wasn’t always the same refrain.
Then, all of a sudden, blackmail and reproach appear.
Living together is never easy. However, the main thing in this case is to know how to exercise respect where we can safeguard ourselves while always looking for people who inspire us and allow us to have a happy heart.
People who exhaust, sources of daily stress that prevent a happy heart
We are all constantly enveloped in multiple stressful situations.
But there is something we have to take into account. If there are people who exhaust us, suffocate us and alter our emotional balance, it is because we are “permeable”.
Every mind has a level of permeability or tolerance and it definitely depends on the personality type.
- Introverted profiles have a lower tolerance for situations of constant social interaction. They need, so to speak, moments of solitude to recharge their batteries.
- The more outgoing people crave more stimulation and in general they tolerate and enjoy chatting with a lot of people, moving in very different environments and organizing a lot of things.
- The problem arises when introverts and extroverts have to deal with these happiness saboteurs, these profiles that exhaust them because they put themselves before others.
They tire us with their criticisms, their obsessions, their constant search for problems where there are none.
Believe it or not, much of our stress comes from interactions with other people, with those who exhaust us.
In this article, we tell you what effects it can have on your brain.
Negative interactions and brain consequences
In these situations, the term “burn yourself” takes on its full meaning. We think of our brain as a wonderful neural network. A fabric where harmony reigns.
When we experience situations of continuous or chronic stress, this harmony is broken. And even more, there are places where she gets lost:
- The dendrites of our nerve cells in the hippocampus area break down. It happens because of the alteration of neurotransmitters. Cortisol has a very negative effect on our brains.
- Dendrites are these “little arms” that unite neurons together.
- The more stress there is, the less connectivity there is in the hippocampus area as many dendrites break and this interrupts connectivity.
- Remember that the hippocampus is the brain structure where our memory and emotions are housed.
In turn, this explains why, in situations of anxiety or stress, we lose our focus. Something also common is apathy and negativity.
How can we learn to be less “permeable” to people who exhaust us?
It is not easy to learn to be less permeable to stressful situations. First of all, because sometimes negativity blocks us. We feel helpless.
How to react to this person who exhausts me if it is my mother? What if it’s my spouse or my boss? These are, without a doubt, very delicate realities which require a great deal of effort on our part.
We must try to put these little strategies in motion.
Avoid that it affects us
It is possible that a friend or loved one is calling you at any time to tell you about their problems. One solution: answer their calls only once every two days.
We must avoid feeling bad conscience because we set limits. Maybe they’ll get mad once, twice, three times. But, little by little, they will adapt to your barriers, to your personal walls.
Look for people who inspire you to have a happy heart
If part of your family, or your coworkers, are exhausting you, rest with the people who know how to make you happy.
- Life is balance. So we have to work to find that balance. Everything in its time.
- People who exhaust others should stay away.
If we are forced to interact with them, we will do so by setting limits. By thinking of you first and safeguarding our self-esteem.
- 70% of the time, it can be a good idea for you to enrich yourself personally. For that, do not hesitate to associate with people who are worth it, who inspire you, who bring you security and the positive.
- You surely have great colleagues at work. And in your family, there is bound to be someone you adore.
So remember that in love, exhausting people have no place. For those who exhaust us do not love us; they consume our morale and our health. We have to surround ourselves with people who make our hearts happy.
Do not forget it.
